We like to tell ourselves that offences come because other people are senseless, inconsiderate, rude lunatics; and while that is often true, it is also true that offences come because we are offend-able! Offences come because we have pride and selfishness and when someone does anything that so much as threatens our sense of self and pride, we are ready to wage war. Offences stick because they have something to stick to; there’s something within us that responds to them! Dead people cannot be offended because they have nothing to respond to the offences with. If you called a deaf-blind person the foulest name, they would carry right on because it does not register, it cannot stick. If someone cursed at you in a foreign language while smiling in your face, you wouldn’t be offended because you wouldn’t know that you had been insulted. What gives offences their innate power is our propensity to respond to them in the way that we do. It sounds easy and maybe even stupidly obvious, but it could really be a game changer.
What gives offences their innate power is our propensity to respond to them in the way that we do.
The truth is that we all feel like we are something special — and why not? We each have a unique set of finger prints and different taste buds and voices. Not to mention that each person’s DNA is different and no two humans are genetically identical, not even…
